A 30something girlfriend recently asked me if she should try Jdate. Yes, I’ve been on it myself and No, I didn’t meet anyone through that dating site. I cautioned her against it. But you’re not Jewish, I said. Of course that didn’t stop me. Yes, my girlfriend and I are attracted to Jewish men. But statistically you’re in a bleak category if you join Jdate and your profile clearly says that you’re not Jewish. Most guys on Jdate are looking for a Jewish woman. Even if you’re willing to convert.
Yes, I am willing to convert and I’ve taken a serious course on Judaism, which I loved. But after the course I never followed up and joined a shul; nor did I choose a rabbi to work with on a conversion process.
Nonetheless I have close friends who are Jewish, and I feel culturally Jewish in many ways. I did meet one platonic friend on Jdate and we are still in touch today, years after I ended my subscription.